A year on and standing 2

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ToSmile,

Good to hear from you. Glad you're doing well w/GAL and job search.

With the wife wise, still no progress so far though. I am not ready yet to be the one initiating the proceedings and she has yet really taken the step to file as well.

You're coming up on 4 years since BD, right? That's a long time for IHS.

I just replied in a chirpy manner: Yep, sell and get a new place, Yep, terms same and proceed on busying with my stuffs and wish her bye as I left for work with her looking a bit taken aback haha.

Haha, good job.

I do think that I am at a better place than I was. I'll be honest that when she raised up the topic again, it affected me. But well, only for that hour or so and then I move on to embrace my day. It would be a waste to sulk it away over something that I can't do anything about.

Sounds like you're making progress with detachment. It'll affect you even less as time moves on.

I also had serious conversation with myself. If my wife is gonna do a 180 and embrace me now, how would I feel? Frankly, I will dodge and feel afraid. Very afraid. I feel she has some serious stuff that she has to work out herself and for what is to come, we will see how it goes when it comes. At times, I also start to double-take if I want her back.

People often have a tendency to try to hold on tight to something when they're at risk of losing it, even if it's something they may not want as much when it's readily available.

Although our situation is still pretty much in a standstill, I am kinda fine with that as at the present moment, I also do not think I am ready to get into another relationship and the kids are also doing pretty well recently.

Good you're steady and content. How old are your kids?

One thing also, I am cutting down much on drinking as well and just nurse a pint or 2 during gathering and occasions. Hope to keep this streak going

That's great! Better for your health, physique, and possibly your relationships.

I suspect your monkey is looking for another branch to grab hold of right now.

There was a strong indication of an affair, right? Any updates there?