No, I’m not a narcissist. My ex is and I am not the only, nor the first, to identify him as such. His behavior towards our adult children since the divorce confirms it
Well I never "attacked" or called you a narcissist. I simply said that narcissists typically think they are right and everyone else is wrong. Apparently you feel that applies to you.
Originally Posted by kml
The main thing I did wrong in my marriage was not to immediately divorce his sorry a$$ when I discovered he slept with an old girlfriend the night before our wedding.
You wouldn't have your children if that was the case.
Originally Posted by kml
The other thing I did wrong during my marriage was completely outside my control - I developed an autoimmune disease that caused me to be tired. (Oh, and don’t forget the infamous complaint I “walk too heavy”).
Was walking heavy part of the autoimmune disease?
Originally Posted by kml
Other than that I was kind, loving, forgiving, hardworking, sexy, an intellectual and physical companion.
Somebody's feeling pretty good about themselves today lol.
Originally Posted by kml
Almost every man I have dated since my divorce has asked me what the HE-double hockey sticks was my ex thinking when he divorced me? So I have outside confirmation that who I am in a relationship is pretty darned good.
Yeah so I am sure these men had a different view of you then your ex.
Originally Posted by kml
Spouses that want to cheat don’t necessarily need their wives or husbands to give them an excuse. Cheaters make up their own excuses for their infidelity. And yes, even really good spouses get cheated on.
Affairs are typically acts of anger -- he had built up a ton of resentment toward you, and since he's an avoidant, he hadn't given voice to any of it or worked any of it through. I'm not saying that you deserved his resentment, it could be completely irrational, but the point is that it exists. People typically leave relationships for 1 of 2 reasons. Loss of attraction or they do not see a happy future together.
