CW was upset that K promised an all expenses paid trip but he was being put in a situation to step up and pay. This indicates a lack of trust because even though he was just loaning her the money, he felt she would not pay him back. How do you love someone in a middle age relationship without even this level of trust? If you went to dinner with a friend and they forgot their wallet would you be that upset if you had to pick up the tab regardless of whether you thought they were going to pay you back later?
MLCxH, your analogy misses that this was a "small fortune", and I had to pay a good chunk of it just to get home safely. I'm sure we all have a dollar amount we'd feel traumatized losing. I was also uncomfortable because her account had $50 and she was struggling. I offered listening and validation on the trip. At some point, I get to honor my frustrations too!
The dinner on the trip was my decision and I own that and all expenses I could say no to.
The good news is--after telling me the next day she might not pay me back--K secured her loan and returned thousands of dollars to me. She failed on responsibility. She came through on honesty. My savings are whole again.
