Eyes, You da bomb! (hey I figured if Dave can say it, so can I)
I have a question for you: When you say that things are so much better outside and inside the bedroom, are you just journaling your thoughts or are you surprised at the outcome? I detect a "pleasant surprise" thing going on, but I have been known to read between the lines and sometimes not so accurately. The reason I ask is that, to me, this one of those things of Well of COURSE it happened that way! Sex brings people closer, it increases intimacy, it relaxes the two people and makes them less tense and irritable with each other--it is really magical what it can and does do to a relationship. So my question is this: As the LD partner did you believe that these things would be true for your husband but not for you? (and I'm not talking about recently but in the past, cause you sure are nothing like the typical LD partner now--whatever that is, lol) Did you regard increasing the sex as something that HE would benefit from but not you?
I think that most HD people want more sex both as a way to calm themselves physically (can't deny the obvious reason) but also as a way to be happier in the relationship. My H has said that he cannot believe how much happier we are now (even with the frequent sex talks, it is STILL better) then we were before. I sometimes look at him quizzically and think, "What did you expect?" And this is not a sarcastic question but a real one! I really can't imagine what he thought would happen instead of what has came about.
If you can shed some light on this, I'd be grateful!
Oh and thanks for the reply on the liberator pillows. I was leaning towards the wedge (oh do I want to lean towards that thing, lol) and I think that you have sealed the deal. Thanks for the advice. Now, if you have any advice on how to suggest it to H, I'd love that too!
