LH you can’t seem to disagree with people without insulting them. Why is that?
What is so out there about this being a dealbreaker? It’s not that she’s broke or can’t budget. It’s that she’s spending irresponsibly - new car, new sofa, expensive weekend trip -when she doesn’t have the money or even an available credit card and while expecting daddy to bail her out. To me that says something deeply important about a person’s personality traits - entitlement, impulsiveness, maybe overly concerned with appearances. And that’s a personality type I don’t care to be in a relationship with. Others are not bothered by this, in fact some guys are attracted to “damsels in distress”. Have at it.
A lot of us women were raised on “our prince will come” fantasies. I’ve known a lot of women who didn’t think they had to be responsible with their money or plan for a career because someday some guy was going to bail them out. It’s not a trait that I respect in my female friends. I certainly would consider it a dealbreaker if I was dating a guy who turned out to be that way - or who turned out to be overly concerned with status, or keeping up with the Joneses. Definitely not my type.
I wouldn’t be likely to say ILU to someone as early as T did, and I can’t currently recall ever having said it first - definitely never uncomfortably so. But I don’t believe just having said it obligated me to work through dealbreakers if they crop up, and most of you don’t either. We just have different dealbreakers.
