Agree with D… the biggest lessons in life are often the most painful. So glad your mediation is done and you can start to move beyond it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will get there my friend.
The universe sent me a couple of people who have had similar experiences. One was a good friend of mine whose husband cheated on her when her one son was a toddler and the other an infant. She has long since remarried and her XH is now cheating on the woman he left her for. Some people clearly do not learn the lessons they need to.
The second person I met about four months after I discovered XH’s activities. I forced myself to go to a company Christmas party and sat down next to a woman I didn’t know. We got to chatting and she told her husband had suddenly moved out about three weeks before. No argument, no warning…she just came home from work one day to find him gone and a lot of their belongings along with him. What an a$$.
Anyway…it did help to know that there were others who had been through it and thrived (my friend) and who were also going through it at the time.
RE: crying. I could totally relate. It took me a long time to cry. I recall I had a couple of “good” ones but it took awhile. I think that is normal. I used to think that it was too painful for me to cry and that the crying would only come once enough time had passed that I could begin to process the loss. It was just too life altering to deal with it all at once.
