Quick update: No huge developments. She keeps trying to do things at the opposite ends of the scale. She gets nice, initiates questions on what I am up to and other discussions. Otoh she tries to fight with me and comes at me again and again even though I try removing myself from the scene. As mentioned earlier, I have boundaries on post-divorce talk, any talk involving parents/friends and any abusive statements.
Over the last few weeks she has changed very little of her own problems - she obviously knew I was very busy last evening taking care of various things regarding my son and the house and her (she was unwell). I forgot to do one thing and she raised her voice at me. When I told her that I was so busy that I did not remember to do that, she promptly answered - "no you were not".
I am getting the feeling that she is becoming a natural at trying to keep me alive as a plan B while contemplating her escape, which she seems to be rather hesitant about. She has dropped ILYBINILWY a few times yet continues to have sex.
This is a great quote I found on the internet - "...in 9.99 times out of ten, ILYBINILWY is a code phrase for I'm having an affair and blaming it on you, it's your fault I no longer love you. Look at what you've done, you've driven me away, I'll show you." In fact, she has said - "look what you have done, you've driven me away, you really did" multiple times. Very predictable it seems.
My GAL is going fine. A few days ago she launched at me saying she can't stand it that other girls will get to have this 'better you' and said with suspicion in her voice - "you are not really trying to get me back, are you?". She also keeps lamenting "I am just so bitter at you that I can't let go".
