You all are missing the point - there is nothing wrong with T leaving a dating relationship when he discovers character traits that are dealbreakers for him. He’s only dated her three months! And if you think “sitting down and figuring out how to avoid that happening again” with a woman who has multiple other red flags around her irresponsibility and entitlement around money is the way to go , I call you hopelessly naive. This is not about not knowing how to budget. He’s not going to change her. And he shouldn’t try.
Can we just trust that T feels this is sufficient reason to break up? Almost every one here is saying “he should work it out” like you are. I say he shouldn’t ignore the very real red flags and is under no obligation at three months of dating to continue the relationship. Even if he was foolish enough to rush in a little too quickly.
Again - I didn’t start this to discuss T but to see what people think is a “normal” amount of time to ILU and how does this time affect what you “owe” somebody you’re just dating?
There is no normal amount of time to ILU. It depends on The two individuals in the relationship. This thread shows ILU and even marriage means different things to different people. Your exH and you clearly had different ideas on what marriage or commitment meant. Dennis Rodman and Carmen Electra probably had their views on it when they got married
As in any relationship, the key here is clear communication. Before you say ILU try to understand how your partner will interpret it. Communicate with them so they understand what ILU means to you so they don’t misinterpret it. If you are not comfortable having the conversation about what ILU means, then it is probably too early to say it.
