Based on *that* description of what you're not saying, I *completely* agree with you not bringing up blaming, critical, past issue stuff!
On the other hand, I didn't suggest bringing up the past, being critical or blaming him. I suggested talking with him about your feelings. I'm suggesting that you consider sharing your vulnerable, not so together part of you, sharing what you struggle with about yourself. You're sharing a little of that intimate, vulnerable part with strangers. You're not putting it in a private journal, so there is something about sharing it with others that is important/beneficial to you. Why not him? Just a rhetorical question. Something to think about, because you seem like the type of person who is willing to challenge herself. I must go accomplish stuff now . MPT
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