[quote]I know different people would have different answers to this question in different situations with different people, but I would argue that at 6 months in, you are only just beginning to find out who the real person is, not the infatuated fantasy you have about them. So at what point would you consider yourself not committed to "making it work" after saying ILU if you found out one of these things about them?
KML - you only seem to be looking at one side of this. If it's okay that CW doesn't have that "commitment love"... than it makes sense to challenge his reaction to her. Because let's be honest - if you don't love someone 6 months... you really shouldn't be p!ssed to all h3ll for the weekend debacle. To me - it seemed intense. At 3 months - with no deep love - Shouldn't it be more of a "That weekend svcked. She's not right for me.. moving on " with a shoulder shrug?? Shouldn't the venting be more to the tune of "I'm so frustrated.. or sad... or disappointed... versus "she's so irresponsible, how could she possibly live a life like this?"
I would continue to say how confusing that would all be EXCEPT for the fact that he struggles with anxious attachment. So it actually makes perfect sense!
I'm sure the comments around ILUs will continue on - and that's all fine.. but I really wish we would have stayed on the core issue - Anxious Attachment styles. I would have loved to help CW with that instead of getting wrapped up in all this noise
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