Quote eo: "Talking to him about old negative feelings and things he did or didn't do in the past that aren't issues anymore is definitely one of those things that doesn't work." Absolutely. My W holds grudges for a long time and constantly reminds me of my failures. Usually if we go out with friends or family, when we get home she takes me to task for all the things I said or did that were "inappropriate". We have had some big rows about it. It doesn't happen much these days - but we don't get out so much... SD
