I’m not sure about my previous changes. She has referred to me as too codependent so maybe it’s that’s I’m too focused on her and not enough on myself and being on my own at times.

So my son is another story. He’s 13 now about to be 14 and last year before our home fire she was pushing me to let him go live with his mom who was pushing to change custody arrangements at that time. I was pushing back until a night weeks before when my spouse admitted to a long term issue abusing pain meds. I decided I might need to consider it seeing how unstable things were at home and I had no idea. Then the house burned and we had no safe dove for him. Crammed our big family into hotels for months and then a too small apartment past that.

My son was easier to manage when he was smaller but when he got bigger he started making my wife uncomfortable. He’s hit puberty and approaches girls a little differently these days. He gets kind of grabby so while I could see my wife seeing letting him move being something she didn’t expect to go so easily, I think it had to happen given the circumstances.

Oh and to answer your question, I had him full time before that and he visited his mom every other weekend or times she had requests for vacation.

Last edited by Bunches; 05/06/22 08:33 PM.
M: 43 W: 43
Married 6 yrs.
T: 7 yrs.
Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10