So, a discussion on another thread has me thinking more generally - what DOES it signify when grown up adults say “I love you” in a dating situation? And how soon in a relationship do you say it?
So, my question for you all is, when do YOU think is the right time to say ILU in a dating relationship? When you’re feeling infatuated? When you decide you’re really really enjoying your time with a person? When you decide you really really like who they are as a person? When you decide to be exclusive? When you decide you want to live with them? When you decide you want to marry them?
My .02
Love is a choice and when both parties make this choice - then you will be successful.
If either party decides to stop making this choice. Doom and gloom.
Point is - the choice needs to be made everyday and everyday you need to work at it. Easier said than done. Certainly it can be done, I think the point of your second paragraph above is that it needs to be done, whenever that happens.
