So sorry to hear that. I'm glad you're working on it while it's "slipping" and not full BD! Although, it sounds like you're near that point if she's telling you she's lost all attraction. What behaviors are bothering her? Are these behaviors you consider core you, or are they behaviors you feel you should change? The first step is to stop doing damage! Hope you're getting sleep, taking time to destress, and totally cutting our any arguing or defending--perhaps even validating.