I've been mulling this over as well and have no good answers. I know that for me that once the ILU had been dropped on me that I certainly felt a lot of pressure to return it. And we all know how good I am at coping with pressure
When I was young I "wanted" to be in love and also when I was dating post-divorce. Now? I dunno. Despite me being the classic "small town handsome bachelor" that is always featured in Hallmark movies - I can't say that it's something that I can find in me to feel in the way that I did so many years ago.
Did the women I dated drop the ILU on me out of actual true feelings of love? Or was it something that was used to "nail down" a good prospect? Cynicism would certainly say the latter.
There's also the whole Eros and Agape division. I love my cat, but not in the same way I could love a woman or in the way I love my children. The English language is poorly designed for these sort of discussions.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
- I can't say that it's something that I can find in me to feel in the way that I did so many years ago.
