But, afterwards I couldn't sleep and could feel some old resentments and irritability surfacing again. It seems like common sense that a major change in the relationship, even for the better, will cause some discomfort and a desire to return to what feels familiar. I feel like I'm fighting with myself now,
I can really relate to this. Even though H and I have made progress, or maybe because of it, I am starting to develop feelings of anger and resentment towards him again which interfere with my desire. I seem to be focusing on the fact that the men on this board are doing so much to help their wives become more sensual partners, while my own H did not demonstrate the degree of patience, humor and tolerance I am seeing here. I am trying to "hold on" and keep that commitment to myself and to him to work on the marriage but maintaining change is proving difficult. We are doing this anger/resentment dance back and forth that would even leave Schnarch's head spinning. The good news is that we are keeping our twice weekly routine going...once a week during a planned Sat nite date night, and the other just a spontaneous time sometime during the week. I am trying to make our lovemaking feel more connected but not getting too far right now. Seems anything more intense is completely overwhelming for both of us at this point.
