Today I feel really down. A lot of worry in my head It has to do with upcoming conversations on child agreements, finances, the fear of living alone. My energy is used up to "fake it until you make it", and I still have my stomach in knots. Taking a cue from the book, If I reframe this with core principals, I see that honesty, fairness, and love are what I'm about. These conversations are about what is best for the kids and what is fair for both of us.
Josh, do you still see a legal agreement on child custody and child support as a conversation? BL42 reminded you that YOU choose whether you are a primary (50%) or secondary (<50%) parent, to use Australian legal terms. For child support, once you've determined custody %, there's usually a formula to determine what you're on-the-hook for.
Are you hoping you can persuade her to take less $$$ than the courts would award?
