I'd be cautious that the text messages are real or not. In my first situation, back in 2005, my W was in an EA with an old boyfriend. When I start suspecting something I went through her IM contacts and saw the OM there. So I started asking questions about who he was, how she knew him, etc.

What she didn't know is I had installed spyware on our home PC, and so I was "listening in" to her IM sessions. That night she told him I had been asking about him, and asked him if some evening when I was present if they could have a casual conversation that she could show me so that I didn't think anything else was going on.

The lengths that WSs will go to cover their tracks is extraordinary. No bridge is too far as long as they think it will help with their subterfuge.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018