Btw - what has he told you about OWs status? Did she break up with him? Did she move away to get away from him, or was she expecting him to move with her? Did he cheat on her too? I’d sure want to gauge how likely he is to swing back to her before letting him in my home.
A with OW seems to be over. H decided he wants to be back with his family again. I understand your concern and I think I would probably think the same and not sure if it's bad, but I am just so not focused on R with H that it doesn't matter if he goes away again? I am really just thinking about the birth preparation, birth and post birth arrangements.
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Plus - do you want to put your son through re-attaching and then separating again? Or are you considering this move as a way to ensure that your son is safe with H? So you don’t have to worry about him being alone with H? If so, what’s your endpoint? What will you do if H refusss go move out again in the future?
I did think about the danger of re-attaching and separating with my son, but yes, I need to make sure that I am ok with H being alone with son. I know some people might not agree with this, but I believe in being open to discuss any changes with my son, even though he is quite young. We talked about how he might feel with H being in the apartment again, at least to help me with the baby preparation. My son agreed and said "yes, you need help with baby. Daddy will help."
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What is your financial plan for the future? Have you discussed with an attorney what you might get in support if you divorced?
I discussed this in general with lawyer. The details of it was listed in the separation agreement I have with H, which he signed.
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Also - Will having H there make it awkward for friends and family to come help? Do you really want to be responsible for managing his depression while dealing with a newborn? I’m worried he will be more trouble than he’s worth, which is why I argue for him keeping his own place for the first month until you see how this goes.
Even before H was back I already talked with friends and family that he might be around, which is very possible when the baby is born. I'm not dealing with his depression. At the moment I can only focus on co-existing and ensuring the birth goes well. I am not even sure if I want him around that long after. I told him he will need to find his own place and he agrees. At the moment, however, he is in the spare room.
