No need to take him back just because he's depressed. I think he would be a bad bet at this point. (I say this having forgiven my ex's infidelity right before our marriage, and a later infidelity 15 years later, only to have hm leave when he was approaching 50. They seldom change!)
Thanks for sharing this. I am sorry that happened to you. It must be so hard to do to forgive and be betrayed again. What made you forgive his infidelity the second time?
Originally Posted by kml
That being said, if you want to give him motivation to pull out of his nosedive, think about what it would take to reconcile? I'd say - a year of living apart, therapy for him, mental health treatment for him, zero contact with other women, THEN maybe you would consider dating him. But divorce and financial settlement in the meantime (you could always get married again if the need arose).
I think I will consider these conditions and they will be reasonable when the time comes for me to even begin to consider serious relationships again. At the moment I can only see H as someone who should be helping out with son and baby.
Originally Posted by kml
Odds are good he's just having a fight with the OW, or is between OWs, and won't even pursue it with you.
This is so true. Your words really does resonate with my suspicion. It is likely that is what happened, although I do think there is genuine guilt and regret, but these do not justify the impact of what he did.
