Kyh. So sorry to hear about your ex’s assault. Her not having a memory makes sense to me. Could be the drugs she ingested (Rohypnol?) and a reaction to the trauma of being assaulted. Really hope she made a police report and had a rape kit done. Her telling you instead of her family or friends also makes sense to me. She obviously trusts you and maybe thinks the father of her children should know if the fallout from this has an impact on her availability to your kids. I know if something like that happened to me, I would want XH to know. Not because I would expect him to do anything about it but because I know it would likely mess me up for awhile and he would need to know in case the kids were impacted in some way.
Glad to hear your kids are doing well. My D14 and S14 started high school this year (we don’t have junior high, just high school [Grade 8-12]) and they both like it a lot better as well.
Hope you’re week goes smoothly. (((HUGS)))
She did get a kit done. I haven’t asked about it, I figured she would tell me more when she was comfortable. I did notice she was being short with the kids at first but it’s gotten better. She is aware of it so that helps. Glad to read your kids are doing well too, it’s hard to believe they’re about done with another year.
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Originally Posted by Kyh
I hope this wakes her up as well, it’s hard to see this.
I believe events such as these, horrible as they are, have a higher chance of awakening a lost soul.
A well known gal around here was right at the scene of a motorcycle accident in which the rider died; that was her awaken moment. A rock bottom realization.
Rock bottom occurs when one decides they’ve hit bottom. Perhaps ex will feel that way. Perhaps not. Her confiding in you, telling you, about it is a good thing. She isn’t totally hiding it away. Facing it somewhat. I do hope IC helps her with that.
How about you? Are you processing this alright? Such new hits from many sides. So far you’ve only told us. Is that enough? Perhaps speaking with a confidential IC yourself would not violate the intent of ex’s request, and help you; if you think you want to or need to.
Glad to hear the kids are doing well. Ah, the teen years. Great changes are in store; “great” in the very sense of the word. Continue to be that role model. Happy singing kids. A pretty solid sign that things are going right.
Have a great day.
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Thanks, I’m doing okay with it, I think I just need more time. It’s not consuming me constantly like at first. It was also exhausting acting like nothing was going on when with my kids. I think getting it out here has helped.
