So, STBXW is wanting to talk about finances. I expect she will want to separate some finances, not settle property, and probably want me to pay her more. In other words, avoid the entire big picture.

Short of assertively stating what I want and why, what are some DB strategies for this conversation? I like the "it doesn't work for me", or point out a concern and let her come up with a solution. Any other ideas?


Me: 47 w/ S10, D12, D3
Current T: 12; M: 11 years; BD1: 11-11-18; BD2: 22-04-22; STBXW: 41
Previous M: 4 years; Big D: 2004; XW: 48