I'm Back after 1st DB (2)

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Josh_T,

I can easily ask for 50/50. I'm reflecting on what is best for D2.

Unless there's a significant factor such as abuse, it's best for D2 to see both parents 50/50.

This is interesting. COVID, helped, I'm more involved than I ever was with D1,S. But I'm going to get resistance her. WAW already thinks I'm incompetent, even though I see it just as controlling every detail. I certainly am quite attached, and I'm very bonded with D1. The reason I'm on the fence on this is that there is research that suggests that shuttling between houses is stressful and can cause development issues. I don't want that. AAHMI state the same.

What resistance? Who cares what WAW thinks. Seriously. It's time for you to start acting in the interest of you and your children without ANY regard to what WAW thinks or feels about it. There's plenty of research indicating if the kids aren't going to grow up in a nuclear family then seeing both parents equally is in their best interest.

At the same time, I want to be more involved. It's a conversation I need to have with WAW.

This is NOT a conversation you need to have with WAW. This is a decision you need to make and then strategize with your L on the best approach. Feel free to counsel with your family, friends, doctor, phycologist, priest, or whoever else you think may help, but I'd be very wary having this conversation with WAW based on the results of other conversations you've detailed in this thread.