Josh, did you tell your lawyers it was important for you to have 50% of overnights and they said no?!
Not at all. L never said that, I can easily ask for 50/50. I'm reflecting on what is best for D2.
Originally Posted by Traveler
At 3yrs, your overnights seem assumed. Can you delay completing your divorce until then?
Not a chance
Originally Posted by Traveler
2) At 2yrs, a. Do you spend time with your kids 50% now such that you would be considered one of the "primary caregivers"? Could you spend more time with your D2 over the next few months to become one? b. If no, the criteria for a "secondary caregiver" to have overnights is that they're able to i. soothe their child and ii. communicate well with the primary caregiver. Could you work towards these?
This is interesting. COVID, helped, I'm more involved than I ever was with D1,S. But I'm going to get resistance her. WAW already thinks I'm incompetent, even though I see it just as controlling every detail. I certainly am quite attached, and I'm very bonded with D1. The reason I'm on the fence on this is that there is research that suggests that shuttling between houses is stressful and can cause development issues. I don't want that. AAHMI state the same.
At the same time, I want to be more involved. It's a conversation I need to have with WAW.
