EO, Are you sure that this "complete control" is a good idea and one that you can keep up throughout the remainder of your marriage?
I mean, even HD people (as you saw last night with H) have nights where they don't want it. Surely you are allowed, under your new plan, to just pass on a night and then make it up to him the next..?
I am just not seeing where this plan allows much freedom for YOU. And it can't be that satisfying for him, either. After all, what would YOU want..a mutually enjoyable experience or one where the other person has conceded control and will do whatever you say? Let's say, for instance, that you had complete control over hiking. He would hike whenever and whereever you said. Would that make you feel satisfied?
I'm not attacking your plan; I'm just wondering if it is going to be fulfilling enough to YOU to want to continue it. Yes rejection hurts but truly it is the lack of desire which kills, and you have already done a bangup job at addressing that!
