I will. Qq, as I'm still learning. As anticipated, STBXW is going to ask for help around the house. For example, moving furniture or painting or whatever. Without sounding like a d*ck, what is the detached response that doesn't help? Other than stonewalling which would not come across well, I'm wondering what to say. Some things I don't want to do are obvious: "that's not something I want to do". But I don't want to be on her beck and call. Maybe give a time in the future, and not now?
