I'm Back after 1st DB (2)

[Mumin]

L was very helpful. Highlighted the ignorance of what XW was throwing at me and I have a stronger position than what I thought. Kind18 was spot on on the advice of child custody. I feel I have the knowledge to properly position myself when future conversations arise. My only decision now, is do I push for the settlement now, or wait until it's clear the house is selling? I'm going to sit on that decision for a week to get some breathing room.

This sounds good!
Really take your time, like R2C said these are some of the biggest decisions of your life.

Since your kids are so young I would look into a 2,2,3 schedule but like most here say I fully agree you should aim at a 50/50 split of time.
Handling 50/50 has been solved by many men and women on this board.
I'm a Management/IT Consultant with ~50 hour weeks (some weeks 80) and I have my kids every other week. Not once in 1,5 years have I asked XW for help. JosephS has his kids 100% if I'm not mistaken.
I cherish the little moments I have with the kids on my weeks. Yesterday all of a sudden I saw my kids rakeing the lawn. I just stopped what I was doing and looked at them for a few minutes and then joined them. A beautiful moment that I will remember for a long time.