I’m with you Ginger. I am not someone who can date multiple people at once. If I get past a second date with a guy and we both want a third, chances are I am at least snoozing my dating profiles until I see where it goes. I wouldn’t necessarily call him by boyfriend but I wouldn’t see the point in going out with other people if I’ve already found someone I want to invest time in getting to know.
Really happy for you G. You deserve to have something good happen. I’m with Elbereth. Enjoy yourself and see where it goes. Please be careful with your heart though. Give it some time before you go all in. Look out for the love bomber (hopefully not him). I dated a recently divorced guy about six months before I met XH who was a love bomber and literally swept me off my feet. In six weeks of dating, he bought me jewelry, flowers, chocolates, and perfume (not my birthday or Valentine’s Day) and even took me on a trip to Vegas. He told me he loved me and that I was his soul mate. He introduced me to his best friend, a couple of coworkers and his two sons. I could not believe how into me he was and TBH, I was pretty into him too. And then a job came up in his area (we lived an hour apart) and I mentioned it to him and that I was thinking of applying. He panicked…told me he was having some health issues and that is was “all too much” and he”couldn’t do it” and then refused to see or talk to me for a week. And then for some bizarre reason, we went to see a movie together (I cannot recall why we did that) and it was so strained and awkward that we kinda just stopped talking with no real resolution other than I just decided he was a bit of a flake. Looking back, I think it very well could have been a rebound and me musing about applying for a job in his area was too big of a dose of reality to introduce into the fantasy that was our relationship. My dad was also dying and my sister had just been diagnosed with cancer as well so I was going through a rough time and my pain and fear around that was a bit too much for him to handle. Anyway…bullet dodged… long story short…he ended up remarrying about six years later to someone who lived in his area and he and I became FaceBook friends…lol.
So get to know this guy and let him get to know you (the real you) but don’t give your heart away until he has really earned it.
