I read once that it takes about 1 year for every 4 years you were together with someone to be completely over them. Based on your signature it will take about 5 years. Doesn't mean you will sit and pine for them it just means that in 5 years and you can hear anything about them and it won't effect you at all.
Good to know LH. Thanks for this. Hope this counts from BD and not from date of D. LOL This would mean within 2 years I will be free in full.
Originally Posted by Elbereth
I am not sure that I could ever be at a stage where hearing about them will have no effect at all (like LH says). I’m not sure it’s easily explained in words why. And is that such a bad thing…something you are supposed to strive for? I don’t think it has to be. At least as long as it’s not something that is holding you back in any way.El
Hi EL, TBH, yes, I really want to get to a point where it doesn’t affect me, nor the wanting to know what is going on with him. I want to get rid of the nervous, anxious feelings. I’ve never had this in my entire life, only the past years, although much less now, but still I really hate it. I won’t say it’s holding me back but it’s not a nice feeling to have. I don’t want him to have this power over me anymore. He doesn’t deserve it.
Originally Posted by Elbereth
Did you buy the beautiful new home you mentioned? Or are you saying you found one to make an offer on? Either way, it sounds like a perfect place for you and the kids. I’m so happy for you!El
I did buy the place! Moving in the end of July!
Bttrfly and DnJ, thanks for your input. Seems there is indeed hope that this too will pass which is good to know.
Just had to send a message to EXH. We still had 2 joint Mastercards linked to our common account. I, from my side had blocked them, I asked him to do the same, he didn’t. He has started using these again. Result, I see all his spendings on OW2 (hotels they are staying at, restaurants, pubs, etc.) Asked him politely to put them on his name and link them to his own account, this way I can’t see this anymore. Better not to know. Anyway, hope he does this immediately.
