Hmm, I wonder if I was too supportive of the divorce today, too positive and not detached. The real estate agent was pressuring her on a bad deal. I explained why we shouldn't sign, and we should get a second opinion from a known agent who is a shark. Should I have just said do whatever you think is right? Or demonstrate support for the divorce and our position as I did? Or as LH19 suggested, get it over quickly, and encourage her to sign.
I think today, in our conversation about the real estate agent, was too positive, like we were partners. Not detached.
I think you are over-thinking it. Detachment is less about which path you choose on something like this, as much as it is being emotionally even through it. Nothing wrong with getting her to back away from a bad deal. Business is business. Detached doesn't mean not being involved, it means that you are emotionally even through it. You can be emotionally detached even if you end up staying together!! Googe: self-differentiation in marriage
I think you can push back on the bad deal, been a business partner in all of this with her and still be emotionally detached.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
