I get it. It is best to wait, for the kids, and the decision to look for another agent does that. I would have never thought to say this doesnt work for me. In fact, I've probably never in my life said that. I'm going to remember that line. In your scenario, let's say I did say that. And she responds with what do you think, or I don't know what to do? I say "do what's best for the kids?"
"Let me think about it and get back to you." -- It's okay to think before acting, and that's much better than telling her what to do (controlling) or letting her decide for you (passive).
You've heard forum members advocate, "I don't want to sell now." vs. "I want to sell. I'll call another agent tomorrow." Both are respectable Josh decisions depending on how you feel a few days in a row.
Josh, it's hard to break co-dependency! Most of us have been there.
Originally Posted by Josh
Do what's best for the kids.
Vague, but you're still telling her what to do (controlling).
Originally Posted by Josh
It is best to wait, for the kids, and the decision to look for another agent does that.
Passive-aggressive. An aggressively controlling person tells others what to do. A passively-aggressive controlling person tries to get their way via other means like dragging their feet.
"What do you think?" -- "The rate he's offering is 20% lower than other agents would offer." "I don't know what to do?" -- "Let me know when you've decided."
