I get it. It is best to wait, for the kids, and the decision to look for another agent does that. I would have never thought to say this doesnt work for me. In fact, I've probably never in my life said that. I'm going to remember that line. In your scenario, let's say I did say that. And she responds with what do you think, or I don't know what to do? I say "do what's best for the kids?"
LH19, yes, we have a toxic co-dependent relationship, and while I'm trying my hardest to fix, let's assume she won't. I base that on years of marriage and failed couples counselling. Our whole marriage has been trying not to be steam rolled, starting from the first few months we moved in together. In away, IHS is no different than our marriage, other than I don't have to listen to her emotionally unload. She isn't as hostile anymore since I set that boundary. I'm assuming that what I need to survive is the usual detach, validate, set boundaries, and focus on what I want and not to think what her reaction will be.
