Pregnant, Abandoned Twice, Affairs OW continued

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AnnKay,

H told me one morning when he picked up son that he is depressed and feels so down he finds it hard to even get out of bed.

H: "I'm very depressed and find it hard to get out of bed."
You: "That most be very difficult."

I hope I'm not being mean for thinking he got what he deserved.

I doubt there's a LBS here who didn't wish karma on their WS at one point.

I told him that he looks depressed and needs to go back to his doctor.

I wouldn't engage here. He's decided that's not your responsibility anymore. Don't tell him what to do.

Again, I know I am still technically his wife, but is it bad to think I cannot do anything about this?

No.

I told him I'm sorry that he is depressed and I could see that he was.

OK.

I even went as far as telling him to go to our normal GP clinic and seeing the mental health specialist there, but I feel like it is not my responsibility anymore.

It's not. And don't tell him what to do.

It's not my fault he left and became depressed when his AP and life is not what he imagined it to be.

Correct. It's certainly not.

I know either way, H (I'm sure his AP too) will blame me for putting pressure with the pregnancy and having to take care of my son as the cause of his depression.

That's speculation. Try to focus on yourself and your children instead of what H and AP think and feel.

One of my friends even told me to ignore him, that it is for his AP to take care of and he should be whining to her instead.

Your friend is right.

I am completely happy with things being how they are at the moment, but I'm not sure if I should worry about his depression now, especially when it comes to him being depressed around my son.

If you legitimately think it's an issue of safety for your son then consider action, but not if it's jumping in to save H from himself.

My suggestion would be to find books about how you move forward. Leave the psychology of STBXH behind.

Agreed. Good advice.

My cousins and some of my friends have agreed to share time to take care of my son and help me out at home. I just need to work out the schedules with them.

Excellent. Glad you have support. A newborn and a toddler are tough enough for two parents. Lean on them for help!