Scott, I'll have to look for that cartoon because it really hits home. Our kids loved the show, Home Improvement with Tim Allen, because they thought their dad was just like Allen's character (loved working on cars, building things, and had many, many mishaps while doing so). On that show, however, things were always finished within half an hour unlike real life. Even when he's tried to confine it to one room, the remodeling just seems to naturally spread throughout the house like kudzu. I've asked myself if there's any malice or passive aggressive behavior involved, but I honestly don't think there is. I think this is a way he shows love to us (his mother used to always have projects for him to do) and the work he finishes is of excellent quality with top quality materials, but he bites off way more than he can chew.
Chocolateeyes, I understand what you're saying and it would be hard for me to post if I knew my husband was posting here, too. The anonymity allows me to say things (and to sometimes vent) that I prefer not to discuss with anybody who actually knows us.
Here's the latest update. Yesterday I said that my husband, who's out of town, probably wouldn't call because we both were irritated with each other. I was wrong. He did call, I was friendly and nonconfrontational, and we had a pleasant conversation. Last week, we were in a similar situation and he didn't call for the entire week. At this point, it seems as though the KLA tapes and the increased LM could be having a positive effect on the marriage as a whole although it's still too early to tell.
I'm still reading Hot Monogamy, which is one of the books recommended by Michele in TSSM. I've also made physical exercise a top priority because I feel better physically and emotionally if I exercise regularly.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
Our kids loved the show, Home Improvement with Tim Allen, because they thought their dad was just like Allen's character (loved working on cars, building things, and had many, many mishaps while doing so). On that show, however, things were always finished within half an hour unlike real life. Even when he's tried to confine it to one room, the remodeling just seems to naturally spread throughout the house like kudzu. I've asked myself if there's any malice or passive aggressive behavior involved, but I honestly don't think there is. I think this is a way he shows love to us (his mother used to always have projects for him to do) and the work he finishes is of excellent quality with top quality materials, but he bites off way more than he can chew. 
