Date 2 went quite well! Date 3 is Sunday! Yup, violating all the rules and having 3 dates in 8 days. It feels pretty good to know I’m not dead inside and I can feel chemistry again. I also feel really natural and comfortable around him and very much like myself. He puts forth the effort and drives the 45 min to me. Looking at T’s thread, 45 min is a big deal! He even crosses the GW bridge and there is a hefty toll on that one!
Ginger is going on a 3rd date?! ::Looks around for other signs of the apocalypse. Congratulations! I'm happy for you. You deserve some good luck in romance.
He puts forth the effort and drives the 45 min to me. Looking at T’s thread, 45 min is a big deal! He even crosses the GW bridge and there is a hefty toll on that one!
DV and Elbreth, thank you. Yes, E- I really did picture myself in that position. I was excited. I thought it was mine until I found out she interviewed. It still kind of stings, but I’m holding onto the bigger reason I didn’t get it. Maybe there will be a another new opportunity, but I think I’m meant to ride this one out until it’s time to move. I actually like what I do, I love my coworkers, my nursing unit the social worker I work with it. She’s a really close friend.
As far as “rebound guy” I don’t think that is so accurate. 4 months isn’t 4 weeks. So far we are having a blast getting to know eachother . We have long phone calls nearly every night, and he’s coming over tomorrow night, he’s going to cook me dinner and we are going to watch a movie. We are going to a concert together next Friday.
He is absolutely not avoidant. He has no problem talking about what he wants, expressing his feelings, etc. he’s employed, self sufficient, can go with the flow and deal well with change. We are on the same page about a lot of stuff and we just really have enjoyed our time together so far.
Something just feels…. Right. And comfortable and good. I’ve decided to go with it and embrace it while keeping my eyes wide open.
4 months is still a rebound - but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. The good ones do get snapped up quick I think. I’d just be careful about any signs of his ex turning back up.
Glad this is feeling so good so far. Have you learned anything more about why his previous relationship broke up?
He is an open book and has told me why his previous relationships didn’t work. Last long term GF cheated. First wife they were 21 and kids. They got pregnant. They tried abs didn’t make it. He is truly an open book and will answer and offer anything. It’s nice. I’m sure there is more to find out.
Lots of us have a past and a very difficult one at that. The work and healing you do and how you handle stuff is so important. We are all works in progress. Hey, my past traumas and my story might be a red flag to most. Until they know how I handle my sh!t.
My friends used to say chose the guy who would drive an hour to spend 5 min with you. He’s that guy so far. Time will tell, but I’m going to enjoy the ride
Possibly a rebound, possibly not. Really depends on the circumstances. If the ex is in Texas (there’s a song about that…lol), seems to me him moving away is a good indication of being done with the relationship. Depending on how serious the relationship was and how long it was, four months of alone time may be plenty for him to have moved on.
Ginger…I think it is great you have found someone to be excited about. I hope things continue to go well… you certainly deserve it!!
Re: the job. Great attitude. I agree with you. It wasn’t meant to be. Keep looking for other opportunities. You will find them.
Can’t wait to hear how dinner turns out!! (((HUGS)))
Let’s hear it for the southern boy!!!!! I knew you just needed some good southern hospitality. (I am, of course, totally assuming he was raised down here and moved up there and not that he moved down here and then moved back.) Keeping my fingers crossed and wishing you the best. I’m sure I’m completely biased but there really is something about that sweet southern gentleman with a slow Texas drawl.
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Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Honestly, we are moving along quite nicely. And probably too fast which is something o haven’t done in a lifetime. I haven’t wanted to be with anyone this in years. The good news is while I’m moving fast, My eyes are wide open. And by moving fast, I mean we did decide on exclusivity. Focus on dating eachother . I’ve went on enough first dates, I don’t need to play the field. And I can’t play the field because it’s been super hard for me to have feelings for anyone and it’s harder when it’s spread out . We just want to spend our time together
He’s been nothing but an open book. Answers everything o ask candidly. Offers what I don’t ask even if it isn’t the greatest thing. He’s comfortable being himself and I’m Comfortable being me . Is he perfect? No. He has some issues. But he is open about them. He talks to me.
I truly realize I have been seeing everything in everyone as a red flag because I was scared. I have issues too. Everyone has issues. It boils down to what you can work with and what is a dealbreaker. Carrying baggage well is important . Working together is important .
We spent last night and half the day together today. We are going to AC to see a concert Friday. I’m Super excited.
I have a good gut feeling. But I am not going to put the cart on front of the horse
