Sorry to hear your emotions got the best of you. I agree your messages sounded highly abrasive. You should not be telling her what to do or “making her understand” anything.
If you want an easy, cheap divorce you need to reign in the emotionality. Delay any decisions until you’ve had a day to calm down, run it by others, and run it by your lawyer if it involves custody or finances. If you’re doing this by email as ReeadyToChange advised or on signed papers like I did, any agreements are clear and easy to point to.
If you can’t do that, you may need to pay a little more than I did and get a mediator like your wife advised. No shame in that. It’s common. They can slow you down and filter your messages for a fee. They will be clear about any agreements, contracts made.
Don’t move out unless advised by your attorney. It can affect custody and asset division.
