You couldn’t detach and avoid arguments because you chose not too detach and avoid arguments. Josh you are all over the board right now and not being able to control your emotions is making things worse. Your HW for the next year should be to understand attraction and what women want from a man.
So part of you says you need to back off. All of you should say you need to back off. She is done and she will probably done for a really long time. Whether she ever changes her mind depends on how her journey unfolds and whether you change as a person.
Also you need to read up on boundaries because you still don’t quite understand them.
