Wow, she hated that email. Stormed into my room and tried to say we didn't agree to separate days. I said everything changed the minute you made your decision. She was happy I wasn't resisting the process, but pissed that it wasn't on her terms. She said I couldn't do it because we didn't tell the kids. I said we can do it so it isn't as obvious, and said we tell the kids once we agree on the narrative. Suddenly she says we need a mediator because we are arguing. Which we are not, she is simply upset that her way isn't followed.
I felt I handled it well, except I didn't end the conversation on my terms. She now gets my point on boundaries.
I find it odd Slshe's not willing to put in the effort on settlement and not willing to see a lawyer. Makes sense, she knows best.
Parenting plan will be a nightmare because she has this fantasy I'll be living close. I don't think I have the finances to do that.
Anyhow, when I purposely focus on detachment, I can't believe how much of my life revolved around others and their reactions. She is going to scream murder that anything I do differently won't be for the kids. But its my life now. And given her attitude, mediation and L seems to be my future.
