"Meetings have a purpose. Face to face communication is useful, do you agree? I can't just use email it's not only very time consuming but also notorious for misunderstanding"
Steve translated well for you.
Your response to this:
"W, i sent you an email"
See the beauty in this (YOUR) boundary. She will test, you will enforce. Her sending you a text is fine. Her leaving a voice mail is fine. You always have time to process what she says, and then respond in a well crafted email if needed.
Hold your boundary.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
See the beauty in this (YOUR) boundary. She will test, you will enforce. Her sending you a text is fine. Her leaving a voice mail is fine. You always have time to process what she says, and then respond in a well crafted email if needed.
Hold your boundary.
Love it! A boundary CONTROLS YOU. She will surely test if you can stick to your boundaries.
Try not to cave (weak) but also try not to tell her what to do (controlling).
I actually never responded, and two hours later i get an MMS of our cat. When I got home she tried three times to talk about something financial because she came back from her IC. I think she even used the triangulation phrase "my therapist said..". I said no, but maybe a meeting next week (after I meet L). I also followed up by email saying even though a meeting, need email. She's not happy.
Later in the evening she was hovering near the door, right around the time I said I was going out. I couldn't really be vague since I had my gym bag.
In any event, I know what she is going to say too. No to duplex. Probably her IC said that is bad boundaries. And obviously an email to say that isn't a big deal. Not sure how that could be any sort of misunderstanding! Lol
