i dunno. I read what LH posted. I've heard that it takes 1/2 the time again for one to move on, so for a 20 year relationship, 10 years to get over it.

My own belief is that it's as individual as each relationship. I know for me, I couldn't look at my exh. I literally could not look at him. Made taking photos at son's graduation and confirmation difficult, to say the least.

I can see photos of him now without flinching or looking away. I don't care to know about the details of his life. He's due to pop in with a text message soon, because son isn't responding to him. When that happens, after about two months of it he will reach out to me via text to ask how our son is. I usually respond he's fine I will ask him to contact you.

It'll be easier now that you're in a new space and have some distance. xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver