Yes--the marriage is finished for now. The DB approach, "I don't want this divorce, but I won't stand in your way" assumes a desire to save the marriage, whereas you've sounded ambivalent. I get this is the third time you've been at this rodeo, and you feel she's disrespected you throughout the marriage.
I desire, but it's not realistic, since she blatantly doesn't want to work on M. You are correct about ambivalence. If I wasn't, I'd have either put in way more effort over the years, or ended it myself much earlier on.
Originally Posted by Traveler
Originally Posted by Josh
I hope she doesn't expect me to take time off to look after the kids, because I stupidly did post BD
If you're done, her hopes and expectations, her reasons for asking you to watch the kids don't matter, because when you detach her feelings don't enter the calculus anymore. Do you want more time with your kids? Can you be free? My answer would be an enthusiastic "Yes!" I would ask her to cover any childcare costs during my work hours.
Wow, again, I never really thought of it that way. You are right. Why would I turn down more kid time?
