I found it very helpful when a long-time friend of both mine and my husband’s pointed out to me after our divorce that my ex was a narcissist. Suddenly all the pieces fell into place and it made sense of my entire 24 year marriage. While I agree that it can be a mistake to diagnose a spouse solely based only on their behavior during a midlife crisis, sometimes there were issues present long before. Understanding something like narcissism is important to making better dating choices in the future.
Don't disagree, and for AnnKay there will be time for that. My concern for her right now is focusing so much on her husband. Even if he is a narcissist or depressed, it really changes nothing for her now and the things she should be doing. And, in my opinion, it risks her still having too much focus on him.
There will be plenty of time in the future, after divorce OR reconciliation, to learn about personality disorders and how to spot red flags for the future. There is certainly power in that. This Johnny Depp trial has been a lesson in that!
Last edited by SteveLW; 04/28/2202:53 PM.
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