I'm Back after 1st DB

[Josh71]

There will be no issues with custody. FWIW, I don't live in the US, by default it's joint custody, and any attempt to change that requires justification and approval from the Family Court. I don't see that a problem. I DO see me being the first one to ask for a "baby sitter". Again, she hasn't thought this through because she plans to move 20 KMs away from her parents, her babysitter options are going to be restricted.

I have now kept the comments on email, and she's already showing anxiety about it through attempting to talk about it. I said I'd get back in a couple of days, and I will. I won't have much to say though LOL, other than clarification and more information.

you embrace the D and act fake it til you make it that you can’t wait to D and move on with your life. That may give her second thoughts.

This is how you behave. It is counter-intuitive.

Yup, and I'm getting my head around it. I still have sleeping problems, but I'm purposely putting on a brave face, smiling, playing with kids, and acting like life is good. Throw in some last minute GAL, and it's OK.

This is a very immature woman who has lost the tingles for you so now she is going to blow up the entire family to satisfy her needs.

Aren't they all?

Ginger and I argue about this all the time offline and she believes that most WWs here have a valid reason to blow up their families. G is a pretty smart chick so I think women have different perspectives for sure.

Um, I know why. She has been complaining about a lack of sex, and I've said it won't happen until there is respect and a connection. She said that is a pre-condition. And, well, yes it is, what's the problem? We were going to hit the subject head on in couples counselling, and even discuss past fears in relationships. It was going to be a very confronting. I genuinely think her ego does not allow her to face her shortcomings. Maybe it was a co-incidence, I don't know. But thinking over the years of the games, blame, re-framing, gaslighting when there is a conversation about her attitude, the timing does make me wonder.

This is a very immature woman who has lost the tingles for you so now she is going to blow up the entire family to satisfy her needs.

Aren't they all?

Ginger and I argue about this all the time offline and she believes that most WWs here have a valid reason to blow up their families. G is a pretty smart chick so I think women have different perspectives for sure.

I don't want to sell the house.

No, I don't want to be involved in selling the house. But it's going off market, which means it doesn't take much effort (surprise). Without a campaign, it's hard to say how long it will take to get a serious offer.

Hu?

In my country, it mean there will be no sign, no listing, no advertising campaign. Real estate agents have off the book buyers and sellers. This is a market for both non-serious sellers, discrete buyers, or in our case discrete sellers. Again, I think W can't face the public acknowledgement of what she wants, hence an off-market sale.