She is trying to build those legs btw but the fantastical nature of how she thinks the post-D future will pan out is just mind-boggling.
bahahaha, my H thought he and AP would live next door and he would still come over for dinner every night with the family. We would still be best friends. WSs totally live in this crazy fantasy land.
One day just after BD she started telling me some detail about post-D life. She went - "I have in-fact planned my post-D life already" (sentence stayed in my mind for its ridiculousness). When I told her in response only as much that post-D is going to look different from what you imagine now, she went ballistic and accused me of threatening her. Then she threw insults at me and left the room. She even got her family to try making me promise that everything is going to be great post-D . I realized using logic much later on that that it is very likely they knew about her A even as they actively hid it from me while trying to elicit guarantees.
WASs, and WSs in particular, do not like logic or reality. It burst their fantasy bubble they have in their head about how great life will be once they have their LBS out of it! Unfortunately, for many, the only time they will actually acknowledge that reality, that it is much different than they imagine, is when they are actually in it! So take R2C's advice, he is very wise. Action, not words. When she starts going on about life post-D, make an excuse for being busy then go out and be busy!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
. I realized using logic much later on that that it is very likely they knew about her A even as they actively hid it from me while trying to elicit guarantees.
