Clearly even some vets still struggle with the concept of validation.
Josh, the good news is that you get to decide! Read up on validation, there is an entire thread dedicated to it. When I came to the board the vets here at that time really encouraged me to validate her feelings, not to accept disrespect. And it is a key factor in turning my situation around. There are no guarantees, but I can say in my time here I can honestly say that some of the best DBers used validation to deflect, to deescalate, and to avoid R talks. The only other alternative is to just ignore her completely, and that is a passive-aggressive technique that usually backfires.
As far as the realtor question, I'd be careful assuming anything about your WAW. They can be extremely flaky. When you expect them to zig, they zag. Do you WANT to be involved?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
