I'm Back after 1st DB

[LH19]

OPTION #2 - Walking Away
Her: "I'd like to go over the divorce details."
Me: "If you e-mail your numbers, I'll reply within 3 days." <Boundary>
Her: (With an edge) "I want to do this now."
Me: "I'm so tired now. Goodnight."
Her: Curmudgeon!!! MONKEY'S UNCLE--
Me: <shuts door>

Even better.
Her: "I'd like to go over the divorce details."
Me: "If you e-mail your numbers
Her: (With an edge) "I want to do this now."
Me: Goodnight."
Her: Curmudgeon!!! MONKEY'S UNCLE--
Me: <shuts door>[/quote]

Both are vastly better IMHO than arguing or fighting if you want to salvage your marriage or have a good co-parenting relationship.

There is absolutely nothing to argue about.

Because validating typically comes off as condescendingg anyway.

It can come across as condescending the first few times. Practice on everyone around you--these techniques aren't just for troubled relationships. They also strengthen good relationships![/quote]
Yes! Practice on friends co-workers, kids just not on a WAW.