I'm Back after 1st DB

[LH19]

I feel the anti-validating sentiment sometimes misses this point.

Nope. Us anti-validating WAS BS understand the point.

You are not validating that she is leaving/cheating/lying/breaking vows/being disrespectful. You are validating her feelings.

So what are you exactly validating?

But the reason validation is so effective is because the alternative, if between the two choices, validation is best.

Or just not responding. Because validating typically comes off as condescending anyway.

If and when she starts behaving poorly and disrespectfully simply state that you refuse to be spoken to that way, then walk away.

This I agree with.