Well, she's really got me today. Pushing for a fight, asking me at 8pm to go over divorce numbers. Then gets all huffy when I say not now. I realise she probably wanted to talk about it earlier when she said let's go for a walk. Anyhow, I actually started to raise my voice when I said I'm going to bed. She had no qualms to argue back in front of the kids. They know something is up.
It's like a power thing. Arguing over anything to cause a disagreement.
What's interesting is I said you write me the numbers, not talk about it and then I write it down. You see, this is the lazy aspect of W. Doesn't want to do the heavy lifting. I wanted the numbers on paper, make her do the work. I'm thinking I should stall and just not come up with a time to talk. Or say in two weeks when work eases up. Or tell her to talk to my L. I'm not sure I can be calm and steady. I think I could say I'm happy to talk when you are calmer.
Josh, remember, she doesn't have to like you, but she needs to respect you. So stick to your guns on not discussing it before you are ready. She may huff, she may puff, but she will respect you.
I like the having her write it down approach. Especially if emotions continue to be high. It is the best way to take the emotion out of it. But her laziness isn't just a your W thing, that is typical, WAS behavior. They want to do a lot of talking. So when you play the bad guy and file you know what she wants! Just stick to the request for things in writing when she brings it up.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
