WW vs MLCer vs WAS 2

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Jq25,

I am doing my best to GAL when I can I go out, sometimes just go by myself.

Good. Going out by yourself is better than sitting around the house by yourself.

I gave up alcohol and smoking.

That's great, but be sure to put in the work to make it a long term thing...not a few weeks and then backslide.

99% of “couples” friends try not to associate with me.

Most of our friends think that she left me because I am alcoholic and a horrible husband.

Have those couples friends experienced this behavior, or are they simply believing what your W tells them?

Going to the gym is one of my GALs and spending time with a kid - that’s my #1 priority.

Gym and time with kids are two top GAL activities. Keep it up.

Most of our friends think that she left me because I am alcoholic and a horrible husband.

You don't believe those were key factors in your wife leaving you, or you agree but it irks you that most people know about your dirty laundry without knowing about her dirty laundry?

It's important to self-reflect. Be honest with yourself as to whether this is a problem point.

All the things she spread about me are things she multiply by 10 fold. In the same time she went and told this to friends, our neighbors and random folks that know of me.

It's pretty common for the WAS/WS to take little things and blow them up 10x or 100x to justify their affairs and D. For example, my wife told people I wouldn't ever allow the kids to have pancakes - which was ludicrous - because on morning at 530am said no to then-S4 that particular morning as I was taking care of him and then-D1 while she was off "early to work" to meet OM. There are people in town who believe the things she said and think poorly of me, but it is what it is...I can't control it. Don't take what she says as gospel, but as I mentioned above do consider what areas you need to change. One silver lining of this situation is you'll learn who your true friends are.