Reading this last post, I’d have imagined some happy reconciliation period, but when I read your post from 2 years ago you weren’t able to perform due to “bedroom issues” and she’s complaining she’s sex starved and wants an open marriage. I have a hard time imagining any male “bedroom issue” preventing giving my partner an O. Can you clarify? Most of us are adults with kids—we’ve had sex before! We’re not ashamed. It seems like after a third child you’re not sleeping with her because you don’t feel close enough. I get needing to feel safe. How long ago was the last 3 times you two had sex to an O for her? It seems lie sex is a core aspect of your sitch so I’d like to understand better.
I am going to disagree with LH about a 40 year-old man or woman having any trouble in the modern dating world—assuming they’ve worked through their baggage.
Yes, us anxious types can be fast to extrapolate a small problem into a big problem. Does this feel like she’s making a mountain out of a mole hill or the last 5yrs have been mostly bad? When was the last time you both were truly happy together and how long did it last?
What prevents you from leaving to find a more compatible partner give your rocky history?
